Sex in your 40’s #AchieveComfort

Turning 40 last summer was great.  My friends threw a wonderful party for me at my place, and even dressed me up “sexy” for a night on the town:

sex in your 40s

Yes – my friends really did make me wear this wonderful outfit to the bar. 

While turning 40 was an absolutely amazing experience, the changes in my body since then have been not-so-fun.

Sex in your 40’s – what to expect:

As I’ve shared before, turning 40 has brought along her friend perimenopause (and soon menopause) along to the party.  Perimenopause has a whole slew of awesome side-effects (for lack of a better term), including such amazing things like a depletion of estrogen which makes vaginal lubrication dry up like the ol’ sahara desert. This unfortunately can make sex feel like sand paper.  Sadly, vaginal dryness is an expected and normal symptom for women reaching menopause.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. Being intimate and close with your partner is important for our overall emotional and physical health- perhaps even more so as we age, as we need to keep that emotional closeness with them. Our bodies are going through lots of changes.  

Thankfully there are a few things we can do about it:

1. Visit your gynaecologist for a check-up and a run-down on what to expect.

2. Add a tube of lubricant to your shopping list. Look for a natural-feeling lubricant with a thicker texture, designed to relieve discomfort caused by vaginal dryness. By facilitating sex, a lubricant like K-Y helps you build that much-needed emotional closeness with your partner.  K-Y is safe to use regularly and is the #1 brand trusted by couples and professionals.  Here are a few recommended K-Y products that can provide discreet, long lasting relief and lubrication when you need it:

  • K-Y Jelly
  • K-Y Liquid
  • K-Y Sensual Silk
  • K-Y Warming Jelly (I personally prefer the K-Y Warming Jelly and have been using it for years.)

KY Warming Jelly

I encourage you to try out any of these K-Y intimacy products to alleviate vaginal dryness and heighten intimacy with your partner.

Lifestyle factors can also play role in how good our sex lives remain.  The usual things like staying active, getting enough sleep, and eating healthy, nutritious foods will also help us to enjoy sex in our 40’s and even beyond!

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What changes have you experienced in your 40’s?

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Although this post has been generously sponsored by K-Y Canada, the opinions and language are my own, and in no way do they reflect opinions of the K-Y Canada brand or the Reckitt Benckiser corporation.


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  • Fitful Focus
    June 15, 2016 at 8:50 pm

    My mom just started menopause and, to my chagrin, was very open about all of this with me. A little TMI coming from my own mother, but very useful coming from another source! haha

  • Confessions of a Mother Runner
    June 15, 2016 at 10:48 pm

    Definitely good info to have as I am now in my mid 40’s. 🙂

  • Debbie Woodruff
    June 15, 2016 at 11:09 pm

    40s were a breeze compared to 50s! :-). Seriously, many of the things you’re talking about didn’t occur until after I turned 50 (hello hysterectomy!). It makes good sense though to plan ahead, know your options, and be prepared.

  • Taking the Long Way Home
    June 16, 2016 at 2:29 am

    Oh ho ho! How much time do you have? I started perimenopause in my 40s but in my 50s I still haven’t completely crossed over to the dark side. There’s so many good things about the 40s and 50s tho, that the physical changes are a little easier to take!

  • Toni Church
    June 17, 2016 at 1:04 am

    Great post! I am not quite 40 yest…38, so I will be there soon. I have already experienced the dryness, hello KY!!! Thanks for sharing something most won’t talk about.

  • Sue Tate
    June 17, 2016 at 1:23 am

    I hit 40 in about 2 months and it scared me to death!! Cute outfit 😉

  • Natalie Trussell Mitchell
    June 18, 2016 at 6:48 am

    Great post! Nice to talk about an important subject that most people don’t address 🙂


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